Nope, this blog is not about gardening or farming, although I will say I have developed a fondness for gardening and a reverence for those who farm the land. It takes a great deal of hard work and discipline but the rewards that are reaped are so satisfying. I suppose the same can be said for sowing seed in the garden of our children’s heart.
This blog is actually about parenting, mentoring, counseling, and guiding children toward a deeper relationship with Christ. If there is one thing I have learned as a parent, it has been the hard lesson that the words and actions I exhibit to my children now will have an impact on their future. We cannot parent just for the here and now—we have to look ahead and parent in a way that prepares our kids for what lies ahead.
It began with a simple question, “What kinds of seed am I planting in the hearts of my children? What kind of fruit is being produced from the seed I have sewn in them.”
I am without a doubt the kind of parent who has read every parenting book with a Christian perspective. You name it, I’ve probably read it. From day conception I had resources for how to nurture and care for my children during pregnancy. When the babies were born, I pulled out my copy of “Baby Wise” and put into action its methods. When they grew older and began to show the tendency to disobey, to throw fits, and to deceive, I pulled out my Dobson books. In their two’s and three’s it was “Shepherding a Child’s Heart”, “Parenting with Love and Logic”, “Boundaries with Kids,” etc.
There is no doubt that these books provided great insight and philosophies of parenting that really work and honor God. But even when I dotted every ‘i’ and crossed every ‘t’, something was missing. I could expound here with a lot of specifics, but the bottom line was, I wasn’t allowing God to transform my heart, and I was worrying too much about my children’s hearts. I had made my children an idol—all in the name of Christianity! When they were happy, I was happy. When they were whining, arguing, or disobeying, I was discouraged and upset. I took every sinful act personally. I realized that I was not living proof of the things I was teaching them. I would become easily angered while telling them not to get angry. Anybody relate?
When God showed me my wayward thinking, I began to think about the fact that if I am consistently seeking Him, praising Him, holding on to Him during times of suffering, living out my relationship with Him before my children…then His power will be made manifest in my life and the lives of my children.
My hope for this blog is to give parents simple, easy ways to walk with the Lord and to guide their children on a God-oriented path. `
If there is one other thing I have learned, it would be that parenting children to follow Christ RATHER than subscribe to the rules of religion or denomination takes determination, resolve, and surrender. Daily. Not everyday will be perfect—we aren’t going for perfect–just surrendered. If your kids see your surrendered life, it will rub off on them.
The focus of the blog:
AS AN INDIVIDUAL AND AS A FAMILY, LIVING A LIFESTYLE THAT BRINGS GOD GLORY
- Touch points just for the parents and grandparents–to draw you into God’s presence before you teach your kids
- Daily/Weekly ideas that you can incorporate into your busy schedule that will help point your family to Christ.
FOCUS ON RELATIONSHIPS
- Our relationship with God, and our relationship with family members and relationships with those outside the family unit.
- Activities to build understanding about God and bring family members closer together.
- Ideas for giving specific scriptures to teach your children in fun and engaging ways. Scripture memory is so important. We have to learn how to wield the Sword of the Spirit with skill!
- To provide links and other resources that are already available online or on the printed page.
My hope is to keep it simple.
The first installment: A Family Unit on The Fruit of the Spirit.